Children who have to learn how to cope with the changes that come with their parents’ divorce often face a variety of emotions and challenges. Some of the most difficult days for them are likely the transition days when they have to move between households in shared custody situations.
On the days that the children switch homes, they likely feel glad to get to spend time with the parent they’re going to. At the same time, they may feel sad that they have to leave their other parent.
As a parent, it might be beneficial to find ways to make these days easier on the children. They may also help to make them less stressful for you.
Give the children time to prepare
Your children need time to prepare for transition days, so it may be beneficial to have a countdown in place for them. Younger children may benefit from you helping them, but older children may be able to keep their own calendar. This allows them to get ready for the conflicting emotions they may feel during this time.
Keep conflict away from this day
Transition time isn’t a time to have contentious discussions with your children. This should be a calm time during which the focus can remain on the kids. Plan for a time away from this time if there are difficult conversations that must be had.
The parenting plan is the cornerstone of the arrangement between you and your ex. It should outline all terms that you and your ex agree upon. It may be best for you and your ex to work with someone familiar with creating a parenting plan so they can guide you through the process.